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Control: The Self-Defeating Myth

Many of us wish we could have more control over our lives.  I know I do.  I do all sorts of things that help me maintain the illusion that I am in control. And then something happens that shatters that illusion.  A hurricane hits.  We get laid off.  We get  Read more »

September 11, 2017Permalink

Responding to Hate with Love

I am seeing a lot of hatred of the other in the world right now.  The events in Charlottesville and Barcelona are clear examples of people exposing hatred towards others, so much hatred of the other that it even leads to violence and murder.  And, like a chain reaction, spilling  Read more »

August 23, 2017Permalink

Soothing Our Fear

Fear comes in all kinds of forms.  There’s anxiety, dread, scared, panicked, worried, suspicious, and mistrustful.  All of these are different nuances to the one core experience of fear.  Fear is so powerful that subtly it drives a lot of our culture, our social behavior, and our personal decisions about  Read more »

July 25, 2017Permalink

Boundaries: Essential to Happy Relationships

Boundaries are essential to happy relationships.  That may seem counter-intuitive.  “Aren’t happy couples always spending time together and sharing everything, and doing whatever will make their partner happy?”  No.  In fact, that previous sentence ought to send you screaming to the hills!  For two people to really be happy in  Read more »

July 10, 2017Permalink

Forgiving

There is no way to move through the world, in a healthy way, that can completely avoid hurting others or being hurt by others.  Anything short of becoming a hermit or being completely co-dependent means that we will do or say something which will hurt other people’s feelings, and vice  Read more »

June 26, 2017Permalink

Befriending Our Inner Critic

Most of us have an inner critic.  That’s the voice in your head that says you’re doing it wrong, or even that you’re not enough.  It’s the incessant thoughts about the flaws or mistakes in something you’ve done.  Your inner critic is the internal monologue you have that leaves you  Read more »

June 6, 2017Permalink

When You Don’t Want to Listen…

Sometimes I find that I just don’t want to hear what the other person has to say.  I’m so upset, hurt, or just disconnected that I don’t want to sit and listen.  I just want to fix it and move on.  Or I just want to say my piece and  Read more »

May 15, 2017Permalink

Recommitment

Sometimes we simply don’t fulfill our promises.  Despite our best efforts and intentions, we fall short of what we said we’re committed to.  Closer readers of my website and blog will notice that I am committed to putting out a new newsletter and blog post every other week…but I haven’t  Read more »

May 1, 2017Permalink

Deconstructing Enemy Images

We are living in a time when a lot of our public, and thus our private, language projects the image of “enemy” onto other people.  This is happening on all sides of the political aisle.  Projecting an enemy image onto another human is the act of making them not only  Read more »

January 30, 2017Permalink

Time for Rest

You don’t have infinite energy.  But it is tempting to pretend like you do. Especially during the hecticness of the holidays, with so much going on, so much to do, and cultural and family expectations to live up to, it is tempting to pretend that we can do it all.   Read more »

December 19, 2016Permalink
Free Practice Group

Twice a month I lead a free Compassionate Communication Practice Group. Open to those new and advanced students. We meet on the First and Third Monday of the month at 6 pm. We gather at 640 Hawthorn Lane in classroom 8. Classrooms are behind the church and to the left, next to the parking lot. Practice Group sessions usually run for 2 hours.

The next one will be on July 6th at 6 pm.